Routines with baby

8 Sep

I spent about 30 mins googling and reading through forums ..the topic? “Working parents routines with infants/toddlers”. Not much info. out there. I am collecting tips etc..

I am going write a summary of what I read + my own here.

  1. Try to not worry about food/nutrition too much. Survival is key the first few months. It is OK to eat out . Fat = stored energy.
  2. Expect to be groggy on most days. In other words I am glad I haven’t quit coffee yet. Hehehe So much for  this!
  3. The overwhelming feeling is normal. Write things down so that errands & tasks aren’t forgotten. It is OK if all things don’t go according to plan.
  4. Home needn’t be sparkling clean. Basic cleanliness and orderliness is important but don’t overdo this. Engaging baby and providing a nurturing environment is key.
  5. It is important to keep track of priorities in life..Family, happiness, health and god. Rest come later. Try to maintain a humorous attitude when plans go awry . If I see the humour in the situation  there maybe hope for me yet.

I need practical tips though. please share..For instance

  1. Make some part of the meals ahead and freeze or refrigerate.
  2. Make lists. So far I have grocery list, baby items list, easy cooking list, uniform list- this is more of what laundry & ironing to do every week. Need lists of errands (post office runs,credit card bill paying, rent etc..)
  3. Ideas for maintain baby friendly environment. Also how to engage baby while doing tasks.
  4. How to refresh and be more productive at work.

Phew!

Edited to Add: I sound a little paranoid in this post.

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6 Responses to “Routines with baby”

  1. meenasehar September 8, 2012 at 2:17 pm #

    Subha..dont be surprised if the first 3-6 months are tough…then you will fall into a routine…even the most disorganized person will start following a routine and i was that disorganized person to begin with…but am much different now…

    Here are a following tips:

    1.Dont kill yourself thinking about nutrition.Your biggest life saver is cisco daycare.they give organic nutritious meals.that means 3 meals for baby are taken care of already.You and RJ can make good use of cisco cafe [a PBJ multigrain toast is only 0.25 cents].Dont worry about money for a few months.Time is more valuable than money.So don’t hesitate to dine out.And really don’t stress yourself too much about food.Am emphasizing this because, people or situations might mislead you into thinking that you are an under performer if you don’t cook regularly…dont let that happen..place your own sanity or health ahead of EVERYONE ELSE including Ani….if you are healthy and happy,everything will be fine.

    2.Let us face it.evenings will be tiring.keep a health drink mix at work. Bournvita or horlicks are awesome energy boosters.drink a big cup of it’/ before heading home.I do this every evening.Since you are pumping,add a PBJ toast.

    3.Forget about making food ahead. Dont waste your weekends.Weekends are for you to relax and enjoy.Dont feel guilty about having fun when there is undone work.There will always be something left to do.

    4.You may want to make and store pasta sauces or oorukai.so when you really need a home made meal ,even a simple thayir saatham can be extremely satisfying.

    5.This is a practice i like and have always wanted to follow regulalry.Use fridays for grocery shopping.Start from work at 4 pm and finish grocery shopping,so you can make good/rich meals over weekend.

    6.About engaging baby,it is better to have one parent engage the child,while the other finishes the chores.It could be very frustrating for one person to do both.

    7.You iron clothes ahead????I have never done that.

    8.I sometimes feel strict division of labour among the parents helps [ else the men get away with sub-standard labor 🙂 ].Time demanding work like feeding/bathing baby/washing baby bottles can be given to daddy,so it gives enough time for the mother to take care of cooking/meal planning and other essential household chores that daddies will most definitely do a bad job at.

    • balanceoriented September 8, 2012 at 7:34 pm #

      Meena…best comment ever. So many valuable tips here. I am definitely going to use all of these and incorporate them into my life.

  2. meenasehar September 8, 2012 at 2:33 pm #

    Ways to engage baby:

    1. reading books
    2. toddler crayons [ of course under adult supervision]
    3. silly games
    4. rhymes
    5. dancing
    6. taking baby around the house and introducing her to different things in the house – major pastime and instant pacifier!!!!!!

    • balanceoriented September 8, 2012 at 7:35 pm #

      Great suggestions. Right now we mainly do silly games of my invention. 🙂

  3. daisy13 September 10, 2012 at 9:12 am #

    KJ- Meena’s tips above are 100% on the mark.I woul;d only add – try to cordon off some time for you both as a couple. We still struggle with this one, as this seems to take the back seat when other chores/ baby take over our life..What I find is that, if my HD and I dont have some alone time at least once a week , then fights and crankiness ( mainly on my part) increase ! I dont mean – leave baby with someone and head out.. All I mean is friday night, put baby to sleep and stay up late for some quality time- can be done watching a movie or even folding laundry 🙂

    Other than that, done be afraid of asking for help. I think Women have a natural nurturing instinct..men need to be trained.So, clear division of labor is definitely key.

    We are lucky ppl with understanding partners- the problem is that, men don’t realize the amount of work and stress we take on post baby. Once explained and clearly divided, it becomes easier..

    • balanceoriented September 10, 2012 at 10:08 am #

      “men don’t realize the amount of work and stress we take on post baby. Once explained and clearly divided, it becomes easier” Well said.
      Definitely need to make time for the two of us to communicate. I think I am so stressed about the daycare that once that settles down I will become more confident in dealing with other things.

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